09 October 2020 02:42
In a lengthy Instagram statement — his first since November 2019 — the actor opens up about an abusive relationship, though he does not name his partner. Actor Blake Jenner shared a lengthy statement on Instagram Thursday in which he takes responsibility and apologizes for an abusive relationship while also lodging serious claims of abuse against his former partner. "Throughout that time, I reflected on a period in my life that I had previously kept in the darkness out of shame and fear, but I know this I something that needs to be addressed, not just publicly, but privately with the individual directly affected and with myself," writes Jenner as he opens the statement. Jenner then writes that he takes "full responsibility and accountability for the hurt that I inflicted during my relationship with my past partner — emotionally, mentally, and yes, physically." Though he doesn't mention the name of his former partner, he does say the relationship he's addressing "was spoken about late last year." The post is his first on the platform since related abuse allegations surfaced in November 2019 from his ex-wife, actress Melissa Benoist, 32. She provided shocking details of the abuse that ranged from emotional manipulation to physical violence on numerous occasions."I learned what it felt like to be pinned down and slapped repeatedly, punched so hard I felt the wind go out of me, dragged by my hair across pavement, head-butted, pinched until my skin broke, slammed against the wall so hard the drywall broke, choked," said the Supergirl star at the time.
In his post, Jenner claims that "there was mental, emotional and physical abuse inflicted from both ends." He goes on to write that they started seeing a therapist together but could not get out of a "toxic cycle." He blames "false ideas of manhood" and masculinity that caused him to act the way he did, though he was quick to point out that he was not using that as an excuse, only as a way to shed light on his process of "healing and reckoning." He states that he "was made to pass" on acting jobs over prospective jealousy of female co-stars; discouraged and threatened to not develop relationships with nor pose for photos with female co-stars at events; "made to feel guilty for working as I received phone calls from my former partner while I was away, threatening self-harm out of depression and a deep-seated fear of abandonment." He also says that he was scratched, slapped, and punched in the face and that he, too, suffered a broken nose. After Benoist went public with the claims in 2019, there was online speculation that she was speaking of her former husband, Jenner, as the two were married at the time she recounted a story involving a phone during an appearance on The Tonight Show in 2016. Though Jenner has provided a new set of claims with some details, Jenner writes that he was withholding some because "to get into the specifics would not only be revealing things that I believe my former partner would want respected as they pertain to her personal life, but would inevitably turn this into a she-said-he-said mudslinging match of sorts — and that is the last thing anyone wants." Blake Jenner has responded to his ex-wife Melissa Benoist's revelation about being the victim of domestic abuse and he confirmed that he was emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive to her. Back in November 2019, Melissa released a video in which she said she's a domestic violence survivor and that she suffered months of domestic abuse at the hands of a younger partner. Blake claims that Melissa was also abusive to him and he made some serious allegations against her, including an incident that he says happened in the shower and left him with a traumatic injury.
But the "What/If" actor proceeds to add that, "Without absolving myself of any responsibility, it is important to understand that there was mental, emotional and physical abuse inflicted from both ends … I have thought long and hard about whether or not to speak out about the pain that was inflicted onto me throughout the course of this relationship by my former partner; and I have come to the conclusion that yes, it is important for me to do so." Jenner alleges that he was "made to pass on numerous jobs" because of Benoist's jealousy and "discouraged from and threatened to not develop relationships with and take photos with female co-stars at professional events." He claims that Benoist threatened self-harm and verbally, emotionally and physically abused him, including in a shower incident that "[left] me with a traumatic injury that I do not want to delve into at this time." Benoist described the phone incident Jenner confirms in an Instagram video in November. Without naming Jenner, Benoist essentially outlined the same pattern of behavior from Jenner — jealousy and manipulation over around job opportunities and co-stars that escalated into physical abuse — that he accused her of Thursday. Blake Jenner addressed ex-wife Melissa Benoist's accusations of domestic violence. In the lengthy statement posted to his Instagram on Thursday, Oct. 8, the actor wrote that in the 11 months since the actress went public with her claims, he's reflected on their time together, explaining that he stayed silent "out of shame and fear." He continued, "But I know this is something that needs to be addressed, not just publicly, but also privately with the individual directly affected and with myself." He went on to explain that his marriage to Melissa was filled with "moments of jealousy, bouts of insecurity, and volatility," which he claimed was caused by broken childhoods.