01 December 2019 08:32
I don't like the mischievous elf on or off the shelf. Some parents may wag their tongues and refer to me as Grinch, Scrooge, or holiday party-pooper. "The Elf on the Shelf: A Christmas Tradition," a children's book, written by Carol Aebersold and her daughter Chanda Bell, was self-published in 2005. Giving the benefit of the doubt to elf's creators, their purpose wasn't to encourage world-wide parental deceit. He knows when you're awake.
Here's why the Elf on the Shelf should be shoved back into the bag. Several younger children have confided in me about their fear of elf. They fear elf will tell Santa when they misbehave. They believe elf is observing them at home, at school, on the bus, and everywhere. Kids know if you are on the naughty list, you don't get gifts from Santa.
So, Santa and the sneaky elf are in cahoots. An elf surveillance chip in the forehead to monitor kids in the bathroom? "Elf on the Toilet Shelf." He sees you when you're flushing. Children believe what parents tell them. Yes, I know most parents mean well, however… Parents that threaten kids with elf to control disruptive or dishonest behaviors need their own "Supervisor Elf on the Workplace Shelf" or "Boss Elf on the Desk" or "Spy Elf in the Break Room." What about "Elf in the Car" to report adults for speeding or road rage? "The Elf on the Shelf® is a fun-filled Christmas tradition that has captured the hearts of children everywhere who welcome home one of Santa's Scout Elves each holiday season. The magical Scout Elves help Santa manage his nice list by taking note of a family's Christmas adventures and reporting back to Santa at the North Pole nightly. Each morning, the Scout Elf returns to its family and perches in a new spot, waiting for someone to spot them. Children love to wake up and race around the house looking for their Scout Elf." www.elfontheshelf.com. I think Elf on the Shelf is a tattletale. "I watch and report on all that you do!" the elf warns in The Elf on the Shelf book. Should he be renamed "Big Brother Elf on every Shelf?" Parents, do not shift your discipline responsibilities to a toy elf. The elf is a negative parenting tool. Children need to learn about consequences and how to make better decisions and wise choices. In a 2012 article in Psychology Today, David Kyle Johnson Ph.D. writes "I have argued against the Santa Claus lie – the practice of tricking your children into believing that Santa Claus is literally real – elsewhere (in 2009, 2010 and in my book The Myths that Stole Christmas). It's a lie (that does not encourage imagination), it threatens your parental trustworthiness, and it encourages credulity. But The Elf on the Shelf is basically a steroid shot for the Santa Lie—a physical reminder of the Santa lie in your house for a whole month. So it should not be surprising that my objections to the practices surrounding The Elf on the Shelf are similar." Parent Redemption Tell your kids the tattling elf is not alive. Invite the kids to make-up comical scenes with toy elf. Parents aren't perfect—you can learn from this. Elf on the Shelf is certainty a Christmas controversy. I say put the Elf on the Shelf back in the box with double locks. The Trinity Centre is inviting children to join the ranks of Santa's helpers and graduate as a fully-fledged elf from today. They will take part in four different stages including a workshop in designing your own Christmas decoration, a lesson in how to create one of Santa's magical keys and a crash course on how to create Rudolph's reindeer food. Trinity Centre general manager Linda Stewart said: "Our elf school is a magical addition to our Christmas programme which also includes festive choirs, personalised Santa letters, seasonal opening hours and VIP shopping nights."