24 December 2019 22:42
Now that Fabian's two-year-old son is starting to recognise Santa in picture books, she and her husband have decided to take a different approach: Santa isn't real. "Your gifts come from your family, and we'll be grateful for those and your family." "Also I just feel dishonest to bring up my kid and lie to him all the time," she added. "It just feels kind of wrong." A water skier dressed as Santa Claus skis in Deep Cove, North Vancouver, British Columbia, on Christmas Eve. Credit:Canadian Press/AP Fabian isn't alone in her thinking. There are parents on both sides of the debate, and ultimately, it's a decision families must make for themselves, said Jacqueline Woolley, a psychology professor at the University of Texas at Austin who researches children and mythical beings, including Santa. Research shows that when children discover Santa is a myth, they don't lose trust in their parents, and the angst they feel is fleeting.
In her work, she's found that kids' belief in Santa peaks around age 5 or 6, and then there's an uptick in the number of children who stop. Woolley said she's also found that Santa represents an exception in the way children distinguish between real people and fantastical beings. Woolley said she's also seen parents sound off on social media about their misgivings and uncertainty surrounding the tradition of Santa Claus. Loading Research shows that when children discover Santa is a myth, they don't lose trust in their parents, and the angst they feel is fleeting, Woolley said. "One of the cool things about finding out about Santa Claus is you might engage in parents keeping the myth alive" for younger siblings, she said.
"We've always just come from the angle that Santa is not to be taken literally," she said. While the children still open gifts under the tree, and Bromley and her husband joke about Santa being in the house, they've made it clear to their children that he's simply a character that some families believe in, even if his overnight sleigh-bound mission is unrealistic. "He interprets information quite literally." The Bromley kids still enjoy Christmas and happily sing songs featuring Santa, thinking of him as a character. Besides, Bromley said, Santa "is not what Christmas is about. It's not about a magical guy from the North Pole." Loading Replay Replay video Play video Play video Although Bromley instructs her kids not to ruin any beliefs of other children and to respect preferred traditions when in family members' homes, she's gotten some flak for her decision.
"There's been some arguments about it," she said, explaining that her mother-in-law made a rule: "If you're in my house, Santa is real." "I think maybe she has the opinion we're robbing our kids of their childhood," Bromley said. We're still a part of the cultural norms with the very fine caveat that I will not cross this line and lie to my children." Courtney Bruner, of Naperville, said she doesn't think of Santa as a lie, or even a mythical being. It's an encapsulation of "the magic of Christmas." In fact, she continues to keep Santa alive in her family, even as her children have grown to 14, 17 and 19. (Santa) made it fun, and that's what brought great memories." "Santa" still brings presents, and the whole family goes along with it, Bruner said. Channel 4's heartwarming animated adaptation of the late Judith Kerr's bestselling picture book, The Tiger Who Came To Tea, included a fleeting reference to the author's other beloved children's creation, the cat Mog. Eagle-eyed viewers may have spotted an old-fashioned billboard with a picture of the iconic, grey-and-white stripey feline — while another, ginger striped cat (who looked suspiciously like the eponymous hungry Tiger) walked along the lamplit street as Sophie (voiced by Clara Ross) and her parents hurried past as they headed towards a cafe and a "lovely supper with sausages and chips and ice cream". Created by Lupus Films, the same animation house behind previous festive hits like The Snowman and The Snowdog, the half-hour film aired on Christmas Eve and boasted an impressive all-star voice cast, including Oscar-nominee Benedict Cumberbatch (Avengers: Infinity War), David Oyelowo (Les Miserables), David Walliams (Walliams & Friend), Paul Whitehouse (Mortimer and Whitehouse: Gone Fishing) and Tamsin Greig (Friday Night Dinner), playing Daddy, Tiger, Narrator, Milkman and Mummy respectively. The story follows a little girl called Sophie, who sits down to enjoy tea with her Mummy before there's an unexpected knock on the door from Tiger, whose insatiable appetite nearly eats them out of house and home before Daddy suggests that the family head out for an impromptu meal. The Tiger Who Came To Tea is bound to be an instant hit with a new generation of children who might be coming to Judith Kerr's classic tale for the first time. Kerr, who was involved in production before her death earlier this year, has always insisted that the book has no hidden 'deeper' meaning, and is about nothing more than a greedy tiger who comes for tea. This freeing explanation is evident all over this cute, if not a little overlong, animation featuring the voice talents of Benedict Cumberbatch, David Oyelowo, Tamsin Greig and Clara Ross as the main character Sophie. Sophie (Ross) and her mum (Greig) are at home on a rainy day when a tiger (Oyelowo) shows up and eats them out of house and home before leaving again. It was always going to be hard to trump such a beloved book, but the cartoon manages it in the table scene when an an entire lunch including a teapot full of piping hot tea, gets scoffed by the surprise four-legged guest. In short it's just really fun to watch a big furry cat monch an entire cake, and it's likely the bit kids will love the best. Young viewers will get a kick out of watching the tiger polish off an entire cream tea (Picture: Channel 4) The Tiger Who Came To Tea is repeated Christmas Day at 1.50pm on Channel 4. EastEnders aired dramatic scenes in the latest episode, spelling the return of former character Lee Carter. Lee made his way back to Walford, but disaster struck as he found his mother Linda passed out on the floor. He was heading back to surprise his family for Christmas Day, after moving away in 2017 following his split from wife Whitney Dean. But on Christmas Eve, things escalated when Mick and Linda clashed over her drunken antics at their Christmas meal with Max Branning and Ruby Allen. EastEnders airs Mondays and Fridays at 8pm, and Tuesdays and Thursdays at 7:30pm on BBC One. EASTENDERS' Lee Carter made a shock return during tonight's episode and found his mum Linda drunkenly passed out in the square. Danny-Boy Hatchard has reprised his role after nearly three years away and is shocked to discover Linda in such a state. 5 EastEnders Lee Carter makes shock return and finds mum Linda drunkenly passed out as Danny-Boy Hatchard reprises role Credit: BBC During tonight's explosive episode Linda (Kellie Bright) gets very drunk during a dinner with Max and Ruby Allen to celebrate them all winning Ball and Change. 5 Danny-Boy Hatchard has reprised the role after nearly three years Credit: BBC Lying on the ground in her Santa costume, she is found by Lee who can't believe it's his mum collapsed. Kellie, who joined the BBC One soap in 2013, recently said things will get very heavy for Linda, in emotional scenes which come to a head on New Year's Eve. Kellie added: "When I got the script, I could believe that an alcohol fuelled Linda would do all that stuff." Meanwhile Danny's character Lee was last seen heading to Dover following the breakdown of his marriage to Whitney Dean (Shona McGarty).